“You must have a room, or a certain hour or so a day, where you don’t know what was in the newspapers that morning, you don’t know who your friends are, you don’t know what you owe anybody, you don’t know what anybody owes to you. This is a place where you can simply experience and bring forth what you are and what you might be.”
In times of uncertainty, there is room for possibilities; when things are not certain, anything is possible.
Yet according to Dante’s Inferno, ‘limbo is the first circle of hell’, and that’s because ambiguity and change are not easy things to deal with in life.
When things are uncertain, we as humans are hard wired to react with fear in order to survive. We become irrational in our thoughts and our actions follow these thoughts. Fear based thoughts inhibit good decision making, so the chances are that our actions will not lead to the best outcomes.
So, the first step is to ‘reframe’ uncertainty. When things are not certain, it means that there are more possibilities, this is reforming the reality of uncertainty into something more positive and something that you can actually work with. It takes you away from irrational reactions to actions that are more considered and will lead you to more desirable outcomes.
So what does all of this mean on a practical level?
- Stay positive, think of something in the day that has been positive (however small) and think about it to quieten your mind.
- Keep expectations to a minimum, otherwise you will be setting yourself up for disappointment if your expectations aren’t met.
- Consider the different potential outcomes and start to plan for them.
- Your emotions will be guided by what you focus on, so focus on what is within your control to work on.
- Be aware and manage yourself so that you are not overly influenced by another person’s assumption, emotions or opinion.
- Things could go a number of different ways so don’t try to consider and ponder on limitless ‘what if’ scenarios.
- Give your intuition some space, you can’t force gut instincts. When faced with a tough situation, take the pressure off to get to a solution by doing something different like going for a walk or something you enjoy.
- Be prepared to be wrong, that’s okay!
- And finally, BREATHE! This will help you stay in the moment, stay calm and make more rational decisions. This may sound easy, take it from me, it takes practise and it will help you when you feel overwhelmed.
So in summary, take yourself out of the unhelpful circle that uncertainty can tempt you into, plan and most importantly, remember to breathe!
As we move into the summer and we enjoy some warmer weather, have a look at this video and listen carefully to the words – do it now! Well, what are you waiting for?